Monday, October 16, 2017

Cum Control

An email asks,
"Is masturbation an issue of premature ejaculation?"
Not at all. In fact, masturbation is prescribed by doctors and therapists to help men learn to control when they cum.
Premature ejaculation is specifically defined as "ejaculating before one wants to."





We may "fall into," "stumble across," "discover" - or whatever other idiom one would like to use - the pleasure of our cocks, 

but we don't inherently know how to use them; that is learned. And, jerking off is one of the best tools in the box for accomplishing control.


How did you learn cum control?
Any tricks you can share with our reader?

14 comments:

Anonymous said...

Great post, bro. I hope you had a great weekend. I learned control by jacking off - lots and lots : ) Slowing down - changing technique - focusing on other body parts have helped. Also, through jerking off I've learned the subtle rising to orgasm feelings and when I need to apply these. Always best to let the whole body awaken and slowly build erotic energy before surrendering to the body's urge to splurge. Have a JizzTastic day, my Friend. Hugs, Licks, and Strokes, AOM

Mistress Maddie said...

I don't really have a tricks, I have always been very good at controlling when I'm ready with light touches mixed with faster, tighter grips and edging.

Xersex said...

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SickoRicko said...

Drawing a blank here.

Unknown said...

"OH! YES! NO! NOT YET!" Just let it ride and slow down. Keep jacking but more gently. Then, when you know it is the time, increase the pace until you blow! Hot cum all over your chest and belly! Relax! Clean up! Before you go to sleep! Great memories!!!

Your French Patrick said...

It is not the masturbation which is premature in this affair, it is the question, otherwise it's me who have not understood. Maybe only a lack of vocabulary? Or a lack of personal reflection? We got bigger fish to fry, but it allowed us to admire some beautiful photos, and it is not that bad.
It's with a lot of warm bisous that I wish you a wondrous day, my darlings Jean and Pat.

JeanWM said...

Believe it or not I have one suggestion, when a man says stop, STOP. Whatever you're doing. Been known to work for me.
Hugs and bisous.

Fullmoonma said...

Since I've been masturbating for 64 years there's a lot of history to remember! For the first 2 years (ages 10 - 12) I was trying very hard to make my cock squirt - intense daily practice until my body was ready to do it. Then until I was about 32, it was a matter of seeing how quickly I could shoot. With my first partners I learned that I couldn't get enough stimulation to to bring me to orgasm unless I used my own hand. My first encounter with mindful masturbation was early in an early Body Electric workshop when I was about 50 - learning that I could masturbate for an hour or more. Around then I'd learned that I had to decide to make a conscious intention to ejaculate and could stroke my cock endlessly without coming. Met Bruce P. Grether in my late 50's and have learned much more - his teachings are found the Erotic Engineering web site. Now I limit ejaculation to once every few weeks to manage staying horny so I can masturbate a lot - at least a half an hour a day is my goal. Looking back I'd say that learning what my body was capable of in group sessions led by mindful masturbators, then endless practice to embody these lessons was my pathway. I could say more but my cock is swelling under the laptop to remind me that it's time for morning masturbation!

Fullmoonma said...

I'm back after a dozen little orgasms has me pretty gooned up.

There are techniques I've learned that are helpful. The key to these is becoming aware of your body and what's happening as your energy and charge increases. Body Electric teaches how to relax and then spread energy away from the cock to till the whole body - using conscious breath work and massage and specific genital strokes that aren't the quick jack-off stroke we all learned very early. Then when energy gets high, a breath orgasm technique (called a "big draw") that allows energy to plateau rather than shoot out of control. Bruce Grether's "9 golden keys to mindful masturbation" is a distillation of his teaching. From that I learned the multi-orgasmic technique that gives a small orgasm a minute - the cumulative effect of a few dozen orgasms is profound!

Fullmoonma said...

Back again after 10 more orgasms with some thoughts about how Cialis helps. 10 mg a day means that I can generate a hardon in a minute or less pretty much whenever I want to and masturbate for 20 or 30 minutes without any pressure to come, and after a rest, do it again (and again on a day when I am particularly horny!) This is important for us older guys whose generation of "turn off erection" enzymes needs to be curtailed. I started using Viagra 20 years ago but found the peaks were too extreme - great if your goal was getting off relatively quickly but harder to control for long sessions. Cialis lets me relax and enjoy my cock and the erotic energy filling my body.

whkattk said...

@ Jean - your husband was a very lucky man! Hugs et bisous!

whkattk said...

@ MFP - The young man was asking if masturbation would cause premature ejaculation. A too-high state of arousal causes it - yet men can learn to control that.

Anonymous said...

My dad told me to learn. I'm working on it -R

John Smith said...

Well you can always try having sex with cheap sex doll, its more enjoyment that masturbation and a real feel of penetration, obviously you can try different sex positions and can try controlling ejaculation also. what's more it safe.